Choosing to Cheat

Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?

By Andy Stanley

I finished reading this book April 24, 2016. It took a couple days to read. The title of this book probably will scare most people off, but I loved that in the introduction Andy says that "I was warned that the connotations associated with the term cheat may scare people off. So the fact that you have chosen to pick this book up and read it is an indication that you are a person of profound courage." I'm not sure this book was one I would have picked up off the shelf on my own, but it was recommended by the pastor in a recent series we're doing at church called "Clutter". Turns out this book was worth the investment. You might wonder how this applies to a divorced/single person who works from home... But the truth is we all have problems with disciplining ourselves when it comes to saying "yes" and "no" to things in our lives, and sometimes we end up with misaligned priorities, even when we have the best intentions. For me, I only wish I had read this book when it was first published. But I'm not sure I would have been wise enough to actually listen. Bottom line, this is a great book, and it really puts in to focus what's most important to me: God, faith, and my daughter. Even if you don't have issues with prioritizing, the principles found in this book are still applicable to other areas of all our lives.

"Good intentions have never accomplished anything."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Your mental willingness was overcome by your physical exhaustion. You wanted to do what you were asked to do, but after a while you just couldn't do it anymore."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"No amount of love, dedication, commitment, or selflessness was going to be able to make up for the fact that your arms were worn out."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Women don't want a gauge; they want to be figured out. Taking the time to figure a woman out makes her feel valued."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"As a Christian I believe we find in Christ an example of unconditional love and a call to uncompromising accountability. He laid down his life for us. But he told us how to live in no uncertain terms. He saw no contradiction between the two because there is none."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Regardless of how strong or committed you are, eventually you'll exceed your emotional limits. Sooner or later, mental willingness will be overcome by emotional exhaustion. When you reach that point, you will do something. But odds are it will be something you regret."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Your home environment defines what your children perceive as “normal.” Create for them what you hope they will re-create when it is their turn."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"For in choosing to put your family first, you have brought your priorities in line with those of your heavenly Father. And when a man or woman surrenders his or her will to the Father, He takes responsibility for the outcome of the journey."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Do the right thing even when it costs you something."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Where you spend your time is an indication of where your loyalties lie."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Repriortizing your world around your family is not just a good idea. It is a God idea."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Giving up good things for the sake of what's best is not easy, even when we are convinced it is right."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"Daniel was committed to doing the right thing, the right way. He was dogmatic in his convictions, but not in his approach. He was immovable yet humble, unshakable but sensitive."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"God honors diplomacy and dependency. One doesn't supplant the other. Both are necessary. Having a plan isn't a lack of faith. Walking in and giving an ultimatum at work isn't necessarily an expression of faith. You need wisdom, tact, and some friends praying for you back at home."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"But the wrong actions for the right person produce painful results. You can do the right thing the wrong way and end up in a worse situation than the one you left. The operative word throughout this book has been “choosing”, not “reacting”."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?
"You'll never know what God is willing to do on your behalf until you are willing to step out and to trust Him."
― Andy Stanley - Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Family and Work Collide?

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